Monday, 28 March 2011

Everything Happens For A Reason

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there…to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

Sometimes things happen to you and, at the time, it may seem horrible, painful and unfair but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never realize your potential, strength, will power or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck, illness or love. Lost moments of true greatnes and sheet stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests life would be like a smoothly paved straight and flat road to no where - safe and dull but utterly pointless. The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience help create whom you are and the bad experiences should be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most important.

If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally not only because they love you but because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things. Make every day count. Appreciate everything for you may never experience it again. Talk to people you have never talked to before and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself for if you don't believe in yourself no one will believe in you.

Create your own life and then go out and live it.

Friday, 25 March 2011


A friendship is like China, beautiful but rare.
A friendship can be broken, the crack will always be there.
So be careful when you utter words that can cause a friendship pain.
Because broken hearts are slow in mending, if they ever mend again.

Wednesday, 23 March 2011

Are you a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

Work, Friendships & Moving On

I'm sorry that I haven't updated my blog recently but I have needed some time to think as the last couple of weeks have been quite intense.

I used to work for a property development company but the majority of the buildings that they owned were put into administration a couple of months ago.  The Administrators allowed the company to manage the buildings whilst they were being sold which happened quite quickly.  We were then called into a meeting and told that redundancies and contract terminations were taking place throughout the company.  Of the 9 of us in the IT Department only 3 of the service desk dudes would remain.  So now I'm job hunting again which I find quite soul destroying but I have trust and faith and I know that God will help me find a job that is perfect for me. 

I have also had a few issues pertaining to some of my friendships which has made me really sad.  I have been slagged off, been completely ignored and been removed as a friend on Facebook all by different people who I thought were my friends.  The person who slagged me off has done so before.  I thought that I'd sorted things out with the friend that removed me but clearly I haven't and the friend that is ignoring me... well, I have no idea why she is ignoring me because she won't even speak to me.   I know that I am not the perfect friend but I have never intentionally set out to hurt anymore and I do try my best to show my friends how much they mean to me.  The whole thing has made me extremely sad and, after some really hurtful things that were said, I seriously started to doubt myself as a person.  Luckily my friend, Erica, put me straight and I now know that I am not a dreadful person and that it is ok to be me. 

So, what happens now?  Well, I am not sure to be honest but I do know that I am going to try and be a better friend but I also know that sometimes some people just aren't worth the time and effort and that maybe it's time to draw a line under the whole thing and move on.

Thursday, 10 March 2011

Pork Chop

I found out some really sad news last week - end and now I can't stop thinking about it.

I don't understand how this can happen to such a nice person with their whole life in front of them and I don't understand how God can allow such pain and suffering.

It's at times like this when I start to question my faith but it's also at times like this when I need to remind myself that God has a plan for each and everyone of us.  We may never know the who, why, when and where of it all but we have to trust in him.

So, although I can't say who you are or what your situation is, know that I am thinking about you and I am praying for you.
If you are wondering why this blog post is called, "Pork Chop" it's because... well, I can't really say but if you knew the situation you'd understand. 

Tuesday, 8 March 2011

Pot, Kettle - Black!

I think we need to be mindful of the things we say to other people weather directly or indrectly - especially when we ourselves are guilty of the very thing that we are pointing out! 

The phrase, "the pot calling the kettle black" came to mind when I read something recently! 

Something worth remembering!! 

Friday, 4 March 2011


I feel quite angry at the moment because of the way that certain people have been treating me.  I dislike being angry because I find it emotionally draining and, although I have a right to be angry, it doesn’t serve any form of meaningful purpose in my life. 
Louise Hay teaches us that everyone deals with anger at one time or another in their lives.  Anger is an honest emotion.  When it is not expressed or processed outwardly it will be processed inwardly.  Like criticism, we usually get angry about the same things over and over again.  When we are angry, and we don’t feel we have a right to express it, we swallow it down, which causes resentment, bitterness or depression. 
We have to remember that our feelings are thoughts in action.  They serve a purpose and when we let them loose from our minds and body then we allow space inside for other more positive experiences.
I learnt today that people will only treat you the way that you allow them to so I’m taking a stand - no more!  I’m a decent, honest and loving person and I expect to be treated with respect! 

Thursday, 3 March 2011

Million Citizen March

Zimbabwean police recently arrested 46 people who attended a meeting to discuss the uprisings in Egypt and Tunisia, just days after the government threatened to crack down on any dissent inspired by the North Africa street protests, report Human Rights Watch and the Media Institute for Southern Africa (MISA). Some of them have been tortured in custody.
Forty-five of the 46 activists were formally charged either with treason - which carries a penalty of life in jail or death - or with attempting to overthrow the government by unconstitutional means, punishable by up to 20 years in prison.
Following the arrests various campaigns hoping to defy Robert Mugabe’s clampdown on civic action have been launched, trying to encourage Zimbabweans to follow the lead of other African countries protesting against their dictators.
The campaigns, launched over email and through the social networking websites, Facebook and Twitter, encourage Zimbabweans to hold peaceful marches calling for Mugabe to step down.

The ‘Zimbabwe Million Citizen March’ was launched a week ago, and called for a mass protest on the 01/03/2011 under the theme ‘Power in numbers to remove dictatorship’. At the same time, the ‘Mugabe Must Go’ campaign is also calling for peaceful marches against ZANU PF, while the ‘Mugabe must go in seven days’ campaign, has given Mugabe a seven day ultimatum to step down.

 The campaigns have been inspired by the uprisings in Libya, Tunisia and Egypt, which have sparked debate across other African countries still ruled by despots. There are high hopes that the fall of the ruling family in Tunisia and that of Hosni Mubarak’s administration in Egypt, will have a domino effect elsewhere.

While these campaigns may not have worked I am totally blown away by the bravery of my fellow Zimbabweans.  Knowing that they face arrest, torture and even death, they still choose to stand up and fight for truth, justice and freedom. 

Heaven’s Grocery Store

As I was walking down
Life’s highway many years ago
I came upon a sign that read
“Heaven’s Grocery Store”

When I got a little closer
The doors swung open wide
And when I came to myself
I was standing inside.

I saw a host of Angels
They were standing everywhere
One handed me a basket and said,
“My child, shop with care”

Everything a human needed
Was in that grocery store
And what you couldn’t carry
You could come back for.

First I got some patience
Love was in the same row
Further down was understanding,
You need that everywhere you go.

I got a box of wisdom
And a bag or two of faith
And Charity of course
I’d need some of that too.

I couldn’t miss the Holy Ghost
It was all over the place
And then I chose salvation because
Salvation was free for you and me.

Then I started to the counter
To pay my grocery bill
For I thought I had everything to do the masters will.

As I went up the aisle
I saw prayer and put that in
For I knew when I stepped outside I would run into sin.

Peace and joy were plentiful
The last thing on the shelf
Song and praise were hanging near so I just helped myself.

Then I said to the Angel, “How much do I owe?”
He smiled and said, “Just take them everywhere you go”
Again I asked, “How much do I owe?”
“My child he said, God paid your bill a long time ago!”

Tuesday, 1 March 2011

5 Rules of Happiness

 Free your heart of hatred
Free your mind of worries
Live simply
Give more
Expect Less