Today's Positive Thinking

"The key to happiness is realizing that it't not what happens to you that matters, it's how you choose to respond'  ~ Keith D. Harrell

"You don't have to let what others say affect you negatively.  Others may say the words, but you choose your attitude" ~ Keith D. Harrell

Letting go

22nd August 2010 marks the date of what would have been my 12th Wedding Anniversary.

The day came and, although I acknowledged it, I didn’t beat myself up or dwell on what might have been. This made me realize just how far I have come and how much I have grown as a person. While I have put in a lot of hard work (especially over these past 8 months) I couldn’t of done it without the guidance of Louise Hay.


Louise has taught me that in order to live in the now you have to stop living in the past. The past is over and done with, no amount of thinking about it or blaming yourself is going to change what has happened. If you carry on living in the past how can you fully appreciate the experiences that are happening right now?

As I sit here today, I am thankful that I got to spend 10 years of my life with a really amazing person and I know that, although things didn’t work out between us, we share a deep friendship and bond that can never be broken.  That is something I will always be grateful for.

Warm & Fuzzy

Isn’t it funny how a certain smell, sound or song can take you back in time?


Gary and I met Pit, Ballsey and Dom for a couple of drinks on Saturday night. As we sat in the garden under the stars something ‘clicked’ and I felt as though I was back in Kariba enjoying a couple of sundowners with old friends. It was really strange but at the same time it made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

You are probably thinking, ‘what on earth is this crazy chick on about?’ Well, to be honest with you I can’t explain it but it’s not the first time that it has happened and I doubt that it will be the last. Not that I mind, it’s nice to go back and revisit some of my happiest memories :-)  

(This shouldn’t be confused with living in the past. Living in the past and remembering the past are two very different things.)

Alphabet of Happiness

A--Accept

Accept others for who they are and for the choices they've made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs, motives, or actions.

B--Break Away
Break away from everything that stands in the way of what you hope to accomplish with your life.

C--Create
Create a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with.

D--Decide
Decide that you'll be successful and happy come what may, and good things will find you. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way.

E--Explore
Explore and experiment. The world has much to offer, and you have much to give. And every time you try something new, you'll learn more about yourself.

F--Forgive
Forgive and forget. Grudges only weigh you down and inspire unhappiness and grief. Soar above it, and remember that everyone makes mistakes.

G--Grow
Leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no longer hurt you or stand in your way.

H--Hope
Hope for the best and never forget that anything is possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task.

I--Ignore
Ignore the negative voice inside your head. Focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. Your past success is only a small inkling of what the future holds.

J--Journey
Journey to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining open-minded. Try to learn something new every day, and you'll grow.

K--Know
Know that no matter how bad things seem, they'll always get better. The warmth of spring always follows the harshest winter.

L--Love
Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate is in your heart, there's room for nothing else, but when love is in your heart, there's room for endless happiness.

M--Manage
Manage your time and your expenses wisely, and you'll suffer less stress and worry. Then you'll be able to focus on the important things in life.

N--Notice
Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and always your kindness and understanding.

O--Open
Open your eyes and take in all the beauty around you. Even during the worst of times, there's still much to be thankful for.

P--Play
Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness.

Q--Question
Ask many questions, because you're here to learn.

R--Relax
Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, and remember that things always have a way of working out in the end.

S--Share
Share your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with others. Everything that you invest in others will return to you many times over.

T--Try
Even when your dreams seem impossible to reach, try anyway. You'll be amazed by what you can accomplish.

U--Use
Use your gifts to your best ability. Talent that's wasted has no value. Talent that's used will bring unexpected rewards.

V--Value
Value the friends and family members who've supported and encouraged you, and be there for them as well.

W--Work
Work hard every day to be the best person you can be, but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. Every sunrise offers a second chance.

X--X-Ray
Look deep inside the hearts of those around you and you'll see the goodness and beauty within

Y--Yield
Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain dedicated, you'll find success at the end of the road.

Z--Zoom
Zoom to a happy place when bad memories or sorrow rears its ugly head. Let nothing interfere with your goals. Instead, focus on your abilities, your dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.

I'm chubby and I'm proud!

I didn't write this but it made me laugh and, being a 'fattie' myself I agree with it 100%.

Thats right folks. I'm chubby and I'm proud!

Ever since I was a small boy, all I ever wanted was a pair of boobs of my own to play with. And now, after a fortune in beer and kebabs, I have them!

But thats not all. No. We're mocked constantly for having wobbly bits where other people have solid bits. We're laughed at for knowing the prices of the vanilla slices in Greggs (52p). We get pointed at by people who have to wear belts to keep their size 12 pants up. But no more, I say! Here's some facts.

1. A fat person will last longer in the desert than a skinny person, because our fat will keep us sustained - much like a camel. Plus, we'd eat the skinny person.

2. A fat person will last longer in the arctic than a skinny person, because our fat will keep us insulated - much like a polar bear. Plus, we'd eat the skinny person.

3. Women are meant to have CURVES. If you walk into a wall and your ribs hit the wall before your stomach, you need to eat more pies, love.

4. "The bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin'". Spinal Tap sang that, and Spinal Tap are GODLIKE, so it must be true.

 5. You have more chance of having a heart attack on a treadmill than you do sitting on the sofa watching The Simpsons.


6. What would you rather cuddle up to at night? A silk pillow, or a toast rack? Exactly.
What more proof do you skinnies need? Chubby people are awesome, and pies are the food of the Gods. So tuck in! There's plenty to go around!

Cosmic Ordering and Affirmations

When you first say and affirmation, it may not seem true, but remember, affirmations are like planting seeds in the ground. When you put a seed in the ground, you dont get a full - grown plant the next day. We need to be patient during the growing season. As you continue to say the affirmation, either you will be ready to release whatever you don't want, and the affirmation will become true, or it will open up a new avenue to you. Or, you may get a brilliant brainstorm, or a friend may call and say, 'have you tried this?' You will be led to the next step that will help you.
Keep your affirmations in the present tense. You can sing them and make a jingle out of them so they repeat over and over in your head. Remember that you can not affect a specific persons actions with your affirmations. To affirm that 'John is now in love with me' is a form of manipulation, and it is trying to have control over someone elses life. This will usually have a boomerang effect on you. You will become so unhappy when you don't get what you want. You don't know what another persons spiritual lesson is and you don't have a right to interfere in their life process. You certainly don't want someone else doing it to you. If someone is ill, bless them and send them love and peace, dont demand that they get better.
I like to think of doing affirmations as placing our order in the cosmic kitchen. If you fo to a restaurant and the waiter or waitress comes and takes your order, you don't follow him into the kitchen to see if the chef got the order or how he is going to prepare the food. You sit and drink your drink, talk to your friends and maybe eat your roll. You assume that your food is being prepared and will come out when it is ready. It is the same when we do affirmations.
When we put our order into the cosmic kitchgen, the great chef, out higher power, is working on it. So you go on with your life and know its being taken care of. It's on order. It's happening. Now if the food comes out and it isn't what you ordered, and if you have self - esteem, you will send it back. If not, you will eat it. You also have a right to do that with the cosmic kitchen. If you don't get exactly what you want you can say, 'No, thats not quite it, this is what want....' Perhaps you weren't clear in your ordering.